Having some anxiety about death is an entirely normal part of the human condition. However, for some people, thinking about their own death or the process of dying can cause intense anxiety and fear. Not me, however, I've thought long and hard about it over the years. I'm currently 39 and hope to live to my late 90s but know that any day could be my last and thus have prepared for it.
preparation
We all will die, it is a fact of life. The #1 thing someone can do to cause family fuckups and tension is to not adequately prepare for this eventuality by leaving written instructions. So many people I speak with are completely unwilling to even have conversations about death and are completely unprepared.
This is a living document that will be continually updated. The contents of https://ghuntley.com/death at time-of-death override any instructions discussed orally or previously communicated via email (ie. newsletters).
will
You need a will. If you do not have a will please stop reading and go get your shit together. I have a will, it is with my solicitor in Kingaroy. It was last updated on the 24th of September 2021.
superannuation
I have an active binding nomination that specifies all assets are to be transferred to the estate. The specific details are with my solicitor in Kingaroy. This binding nomination was last renewed on the 24th of September 2021 and needs to be renewed every 3 years and the renewal is my responsibility.
family trust
Upon my death, a new appointer is instated via my will. The specific details are with my solicitor in Kingaroy. Please use funds from the estate to repay any personal family loans, keep the trust alive and ensure there is enough money within the trust so that the family farmhouse is there for my kid's usage and for their kids, kids usage.
digital stuff
websites
Please continue to pay the web hosting bills and keep any website listed below online. Upon my death please renew all my domains for the maximum term which is currently 10 years via name.com and archive the websites via archive.org.
ghuntley.com
This website is hosted by https://ghost.org/
waveofdestruction.org
This website is hosted by https://netlify.com/
passwords
My passwords are stored in 1password, on my keychain, you'll find a Yubikey which needs to be inserted when authenticating. Some websites will require a 1-time code via Authy.
Please post a short notice on each one of the following social media accounts with a link back to this page.
children
The specifics are in my will. Kids, I love you to bits. I've done everything I can (inc getting highly involved with Australian Politics) to ensure that you can see your father sooner.
If my children need money please look after them financially from the estate but reimburse expenses from my ex-wife on NET90 terms, please.
ex-wife
Nothing would make me happier to see or hear that she has taken accountability for her choices in life instead of coasting along on the foot tails of others.
I cannot believe two years after our separation, she has successfully transitioned her burden onto others and months before divorcing convinced my ex-mate to simp for her. I doubt the fling will last and I hope, he will come to his senses and remember his principles ("only after a woman with who is financially self-sufficient") before it turns him bitter and that turns into resentment towards my kids.
Not my problem anymore but if I was to pass away tomorrow these paragraphs serve as an accurate representation of how I feel right now. By design, she gets fucking nothing and is not invited to the funeral. Please respect my wishes here.
When the children are of appropriate age (at least 16yrs old) please share the reasons for divorce and evidence of her actions with them if they seek answers. Please also reassure them that I once very much loved their mother, there were happy times and we knew how to have the best of adventures but love doesn't pay the bills.
friends
Anyone who is connected to my ex-wife and that circle of friends between 2008 - 2019 is essentially dead to me. Especially Sarah. Do not invite them to the funeral or afterparty. They have not been there for me over the years and I've focused on putting down new roots instead.
heirlooms
Minecraft
There are three Minecraft "realm" servers which are family heirlooms:
- Creative (the main world/family heirloom)
- Mine for Redstone (for experiments)
- Adventure World (for theme events/consult the kids if this can be shutdown)
Please ensure that they are kept online, are regularly backed up and my kiddos can continue building amazing creations. My Microsoft account is the owner of the realms and payment is done via Google Play but the subscription can be transferred to a credit card. The total cost is circa $15/AUD month.
Photos
Make sure that my children get a copy of all photos. These can be exported via Google Photos Takeout and are stored under my Google Account. Purchase two solid-state drives and export the contents onto them twice over - one for each kid.
Messages
Make sure that my children get a copy of all emails / chat messages between myself and their mother. Over the years we have used the following platforms:
After exporting to files, please take them to Officeworks to print and bind the conversations so that the data is not lost. Don't push the contents on my kids until they are adults and make the contents accessible in a way where they "stumble upon it out of curiosity" vs "here read all about your mother" (don't do this).
Watch
There's an oral agreement between myself and my son that my Tag Heuer watch transfers to him upon my death. Make sure it happens.
bury vs burn
I don't care, keep the costs low and spend the money on the sound, audio/visual system and after-party instead.
organ donor?
Nope[1], I have ethical concerns related to duty of care and doctors pressuring for organs. It's my preference to remove the need for family members to have these conversations by opting out.
[1] If my children or their children need organs please harvest away.
music
after party
Upon my death, it is likely my mates will approach about throwing one slapping and loose af party. Let them, if they need money for venue hire to make it happen then please use funds within reason from my estate. Invite and encourage my kids to do a set on the decks. Make it memorable.
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